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Day 6 of 365 | The Boys in the Boat

My family and I went to see The Boys in the Boat at the Flicks Movie Theater last week, and holy cow, that brought back a flood of memories and feelings from my freshman year at the California Maritime Academy.

I arrived at the school not knowing anyone on campus, but a few girls on the orientation tour said they rowed crew and that I should consider coming out for the team.

Intrigued, I said yes.

Soon after, I found myself in a long, narrow, and very tipsy row boat (called a “shell”) trying to figure how to not tip over and row in exact unison with my crewmates every day after school. 

We started the season with a coach, but for reasons I can’t remember, he quit, moved away, or was fired, so our team had no coach. But we did have some Sophomores and Juniors who had rowed the previous seasons. They helped keep the team together and coordinated practices and the trips to the regattas where we would race these boats. 

I discovered from practice sessions on the rowing machines that I was pretty strong compared to other rowers, and I was decent at keeping a rhythm. 

It wasn’t long before our 4- and 8-man boats were moving with great speed through the water, even with freshman rowers, and often I was sitting in the first position, setting the pace for the boat. 

The movie The Boys in the Boat is about a Junior Varsity team that shocked everyone by beating the best teams in the nation and winning a bid to row in the Olympics. I won’t share more details, but I will say it’s an awesome underdog story.  

If you look closely at this old photo I posted, I’m the first rower, followed by Carl, Harry, and Levi. Sadie was coxswain.  

It’s super cool that someone took this photo and that I have a copy of it, because it was taken moments before we won a race that we were given zero chance of winning.

It was up near Sacramento, and we arrived with no coach, and even worse our boat had a broken part, so we didn’t even know if we could race that day.  

We asked around and luckily we were able to borrow a 4-man boat from Berkeley. You know Berkeley, the team that has scholarship rowers, and a history of being one of the top rowing schools in the nation (they were featured in the movie, which took place nearly 90 years ago as the best team then, too).  

I think Berkeley felt sorry for us and gave us their back up J.V. boat. 

We were racing against half a dozen schools, including Berkeley and Stanford, the West Coast power teams.  

The Berkeley boat was definitely nicer than what we were accustomed to, but we barely had time to figure out how to get strapped into the darn thing before we were ushered to the starting line.  

They fired the gun to start the race, and honestly the rest of it is a bit of a blur, but here is what I remember.

We didn’t have a great start because we were still figuring out the boat, but we soon found a rhythm and were almost keeping pace with the other boats.  

The four of us were decently strong rowers, but Harry and I were freshmen, this might even have been our first race, (I can’t quite remember).  

Sadie called out for a Power 20, which is the equivalent of going from a hard run to a sprint. You can’t sprint forever, so in crew, you often set an amount of fast power strokes at strategic times to get an edge on other racers.  

Not knowing how to pace myself and with my heart bounding with adrenaline, I just started pulling with all my might and as fast as I could. 

My crewmates kept pace with me, and we shot out in front of the other boats. I remember seeing us take the lead, and the excitement gave us an extra kick.  

The problem was… we had a lot of race left.

Sadie kept calling out power 20s. It felt like we kept up that sprint for the whole race, and I thought I was going to black out or my heart would explode.  

We won.  

We were all initially in shock. 

Everyone watching the race was in shock.  

How did we do that..?

It was a glorious feeling and an awesome achievement, one that we repeated at our next event in an 8-man boat in Humbolt, CA, where we again raced against Berkeley and Stanford, but also the University of Washington and some Oregon schools. 

We took home a trophy that was taller than me. It was ridiculous, and for the first time I realized that we were winning races for which we hadn’t even been considered a contender.  

I’d forgotten about these stories until I watched The Boys in the Boat.  

It was so hard for me to sit still watching the movie, as I felt compelled to move in rhythm with the boat during the race scenes. I had the urge to start rowing, right there in the movie theater.   

Anyway, it’s a delightful movie, and one I highly recommend, especially because it’s a wonderful true story of grit, teamwork, and seizing opportunity. 

Until tomorrow,

Cheers to you and yours.

Mike Turner

 

P.S. If you are wondering why I put DAY 6 of 365, my birthday was on Jan 6th, and I committed to writing a daily journal for a year (and publishing it to hold myself accountable). I plan to use this challenge to share my journey to reaching some big, ambitious goals this year. I won’t always publish here, so if you want to follow along in my journey, you can subscribe to my email list here: turner.ck.page/mikes-blog  

Day 2: How I Bribe My Teenagers To Talk To Me

Day 2: How I Bribe My Teenagers To Talk To Me

Last year, I started offering my teenagers $20 for every chapter they read of a book of my choice, but with the requirement they had to take notes and talk to me about it before they could get the money.

I know, I know… $20 per chapter?
That is ridiculous, right?

But I tell you what…
It’s the best money I’ve ever spent.

Hear me out. My teenagers are always asking for money, to get food with their friends, for the movies, to get hair and nails done before the dance, etc. It never ends.

But now, I say, “Sure, let me know when you’ve read a chapter.”

And yes, they roll their eyes at the idea, but about half an hour later, they come back with notes and talk to me about what they are learning, which leads to meaningful discussions.

IT’S AWESOME!!

Emilia is reading Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, and Ivy is reading How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.

Both are almost 100-year-old books that are difficult to read at times but full of priceless wisdom that I now get to have discussions about with my girls.

IT’S A DREAM COME TRUE, because I get to talk to my kids about real important life stuff, and I’ve witnessed how it’s impacting them in positive ways.

So yeah, I bribe my kids to talk to me.
And it’s one of the best parenting decisions I’ve ever made.

Have you ever read a book that changed your life for the better?
What was it? (I’d love to add it to the Dad Will Pay Us If We Read This Library).

Until Tomorrow,
Cheers to you and yours

DAY 1 of 365

Day 1 – Yesterday was my birthday, and I shared a big (possibly crazy) goal I’m working towards. I actually have MANY big, scary goals I’m working towards like…

  • Acquiring a big beautiful sailing yacht to charter and play on.
  • Building a sizable retirement pension from real estate investments.
  • Expanding my business nationally.
  • Getting in the best shape of my life (without injury). 
  • Teaching my kids the equivalent of an MBA in Business education before they graduate high school.
  • Planning a kick-ass trip to Italy to celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary.
  • Writing and publishing a daily journal (every day!) for a year. 

These are just a handful of things I’m working on…

And I honestly don’t know yet IF and even HOW I will pull them off, 

but I thought it might be fun, possibly helpful (or at least entertaining) if I shared my day-to-day struggle towards my goals, the wins and the fails this year, and it would HOLD ME ACCOUNTABLE in ways I haven’t experienced before. 

The funny thing is… I actually believe writing and publishing EVERY DAY for a year is the hardest and scariest goal on that list.

Because writing does not come easy to me. Every sentence is a struggle, and it takes me SO LONG to write even a few paragraphs, especially with my ADHD brain.  

BUT I know if I can conquer this goal, it will help me conquer all the other goals on my list. It’s like the LEAD DOMINO; it creates momentum and forces me to plan, be tactical, to commit.  

I’ve proven to myself I can do hard things. A few years ago, I committed to doing 100 burpees, as fast as possible, every day for a year. I HATE burpees with a passion, but forcing myself to do it did wonders for my self-confidence, and it led to me making improvements in many parts of my life.

So, this is my public declaration that I will post an entry each day. 

Feel free to call me out if you DON’T see me post something.  

I’M SERIOUS. Call me out if you don’t see me post. 

So, here is Day 1 of my 46th year around the sun; tomorrow, on Day 2, I will share my best parenting win of 2023 and how it came after YEARS of failing. 

Until tomorrow, 

Cheers to you and yours,

A Book for My Daughters

A Book for My Daughters

I write and exercise every morning. I haven’t missed a day in over 6 months, even when I feel sick, tired, or injured.

It’s a daily practice for my mind and body that I committed to, and I have no intention of stopping this routine anytime soon.

I don’t always write a lot, but when I do, it’s often about lessons I’ve learned, or I’m in the process of learning.

Frequently when I’m writing, I think to myself, “I hope my girls read this someday.”

Some things I know they could read today and understand the meaning, but I also know, at least right now, they wouldn’t want to read it, and I fear it would be more like a choir to them.

I’d rather have my recorded stories and thoughts in a book ready for them when they feel it might help them.

Consequently, I’ve been thinking a lot about collecting many of daily writings and putting them a book. The writings I share often apply to anyone, but when I write them, I am most often thinking about my daughters. As in, things I’ve figured out about life so far that I want to share and pass on to them, to guide them on their own journey.

In the past, when I’ve had a friend or family member graduate from high school, my favorite gift to give them was a book that greatly impacted my life. I grab it right from my shelf of books I’ve loved with hopes they will get as much from the book as I did.

I know most high school graduates are not that excited about getting a used book, so I often throw in some cash in there too. I don’t know if they will ever read it, and that is ok, it was just my attempt at gifting them some knowledge that I believe could help in some way on their journey.

But wouldn’t it be awesome to hand to your own child at that transitional period in their life, a book of your best wisdom wrapped in stories for them to read when they go off on their own. Maybe that book is held on to and gets passed on to their kids. How cool would that be?

Amanda has already done something similar; she purchased a new journal when each of our girls were born, and she has written letters to them inside their journal since they were babies. These thick journals are nearly full. She doesn’t know when she will give it to them, but what amazing gift that will be.

So I’ve decided to no longer “think” about creating a book for my daughters. I will do it, and I will hand it to them when I believe the timing is right.

As I write this statement, I am sitting in my chair, looking at photos of my kids hanging on the wall spanning the last decade. It reminds me of how incredibly grateful I have been to have them in my life. To watch them grow and become strong young ladies. It’s a gift, a gift I don’t intend to waste.

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Inspiring Characters

Inspiring Characters

We all have the ability to inspire others. It’s a superpower we all possess if we choose to use it.

The late Kobe Bryant once said, “The most important thing is to try and inspire people so that they can be great in whatever they want to do.

To try and inspire others.
Sounds like a good plan to me.

It doesn’t matter your starting point, your age, or even how unexciting you think your life is. You have the ability to be an inspiring character.

It’s your story. You get to write the script.

Do hard things. Be inspiring.

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Get Busy Living or Get Busy Dying

Get Busy Living or Get Busy Dying

With our daughters not having school or sports, we find ourselves having a lot more family movie nights.

Sometimes we watch something funny, so we can all laugh. My oldest daughter typically campaigns to watch something with Dwayne Johnson, so we’ve seen a lot of his movies.

But every now and then, I try to put a movie on that will challenge them or broaden their perspectives.

Last night, we watched Shawshank Redemption (it’s free on Netflix). And boy did that movie deliver. It’s every bit as good as I remember, and my daughters loved the movie too.

I think the ending is one of the best in movie history. The build-up for it just awesomely done, and the story itself is an epic tale of hardship and perseverance.

There is a great quote expressed near the end of the movie when the main character Andy says, “Get busy living or get busy dying.” And the message is clear, we can either spend our lives going through the motions waiting for something to happen, or we can make something happen for ourselves.

We can make something happen.

I hope that powerful message wasn’t lost on my kids. It certainly resonated with me.

Hope is a beautiful thing, but hope alone isn’t enough. We must make something happen and create our own luck even when we feel like the most unlucky person there is.

That is what Andy Dufrense did throughout this story, and it’s a fantastic lesson we should all remember.

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