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Exit the Road of Regret

Exit the Road of Regret

After the last real estate crash, I had to rebuild financially. But slowly, I built my real estate business up to a level where it was thriving. I could see the next 10 years. I was in a good spot. I could have stayed on that road, hit cruise control, and had a pretty good ride. But… something kept nagging at me. Like I was destined for something else, something bigger.

My friend Ryan Fletcher, who has a similar story, described his like this…

“…Instead of staying on cruise control, I saw a dirt road that looked exciting, that wound back and forth up the side of a mountain. Hairpin turns? Yeah, those look treacherous. A pitch so steep that a goat can barely traverse it? Well, who doesn’t love a challenge? The problem was, I was driving a sports car, not exactly built for off-road adventure racing. Who trades in a Lamborghini for a desert Baja truck? A person, I guess, who commits to living life regret-free. The Path of Least Resistance vs. The Path of Great Resistance. Over the next 3 years, I’d sink everything I had into the build of that Baja 1000 capable vehicle. This led many to question me. To doubt me. To not understand me. In each occurrence, I don’t care. Those who don’t get it, don’t have the same drum beating inside of them as I have beating inside of me. My drum thumps. It’s a heartbeat in my throat. It’s energy in my brain. It’s the conviction in my beliefs.”

Ryan’s comments really resonated with me.

It’s easy to say that taking that dirt road is stupid when you are already cruising down the comfortable highway. But the danger in not taking that exciting dirt road is regret.

“When something inside you is calling you to be more, it’s time to get uncomfortable.”

Like Ryan, there is a drum that is beating inside of me to become more. If I ignore it, the drum just gets louder until I can’t hear anything else.

The most frustrating place is often when you have drum beating inside of you, but you can’t find your exciting dirt road.

I’ve been there many times.

So much so that when an exciting dirt road came along that spoke to me, I turned off cruise control, pulled off the highway, and made a left on to that exciting and treacherous dirt road.

It didn’t take long for me to see this was the road I’ve been waiting for, but if I had not stopped to check it out, I might have never found it. Had I not taken a chance on seeing where it might lead, I may have invited regret to be a passenger on my ride.

“Don’t invite regret to be a passenger in your life.”

If you have a drum beating inside of you, keep an eye out for your exciting dirt road; it might just be coming on up on your left.

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Who Are the Heroes in the Room?

Who Are the Heroes in the Room?

Recently we held our quarterly ImpactClub event. We have 230 members (who need not be present to participate). Each donates $100. We hear from 3 charities for 5 minutes each. Then the members at the event vote and the winning charity takes home the pot. 230 members x $100 = $23,000. Yes, it’s super cool.

At these events, Mike and I get lots of compliments. We hear about how amazing and wonderful we are and how the work we do is so important. I’m not going to lie, compliments feel great. Being recognized for your efforts is like the emotional equivalent of melted butter. So good.

One of the past winners of ImpactClub was giving me these compliments. And suddenly I felt like I was in the Upside Down.

“Wait a second,” I said. “YOU’RE the one doing the amazing work. All we do is throw a party!”

Think about that. Mike and I throw a big party and get lots of praise for raising money for local charities. But ImpactClub is much bigger than us; it only works if we have members (thank you, members!).

But we’re not the ones in the trenches. We go home and start planning the next live event.

The heroes in all of this are the ones brave enough to get on stage and tell their stories.

And the day after the event? While Mike and I are discussing what logistics worked and what could be better next time?

Those heroes are going back to their work feeding the hungry, healing the abused, and caring for the most vulnerable people in our society.

THAT is the truly amazing work. It’s the work of compassion and determination and a commitment to do the right thing when it would be so much easier to look the other way.

If you want to learn more about these true heroes, I invite you to check out the organizations we heard from at our last event…

Hope House https://ahome2come2.com/

Family Advocates https://www.familyadvocates.org/

The Idaho Foodbank https://idahofoodbank.org/

See more at http://ImpactClubBoise.com

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

What Is ImpactClub?

What Is ImpactClub?

In its first two years, ImpactClub Boise donated almost $200,000 to the following organizations:

Women’s and Children’s Alliance
Chrysalis Transitional Living
Create Common Good
Interfaith Sanctuary
Wyakin Foundation
The Speedy Foundation
Wilderness Science Education
Boise Angels
The Language and Learning Center at Calico
The Percolator Fund

Depending on our membership at the time of their wins, the above organizations received anywhere from $10,000 to $23,000.

We’ve been on Channels 6 and 7, and on Gemma Gaudette’s “Idaho Matters” program on our local NPR station. We’re grateful for the press.

But my heart really goes out to our members, both past and current.

When someone has the mindset that their small donation doesn’t matter, they typically fail to follow through with it.

ImpactClub members, on the other hand, know the power in our collective strength. Each of our 230 members is equally responsible for what we were able to do in those first 2 years. By each giving $100, we pool our donations to $23,000. That amount of money can be a game changer for some of the amazing organizations doing good work in our community. I’m humbled by the generosity around me.

If you are a current member of ImpactClub, whether you attend the live events or not, know that YOU are making a difference. We can’t do what we do without you.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

Living a Better Story is Easier than Most Realize

Living a Better Story is Easier than Most Realize

“And once you live a good story, you get a taste for a kind of meaning in life, and you can’t go back to being normal; you can’t go back to meaningless scenes stitched together by the forgettable thread of wasted time.”
― Donald Miller, A Million Miles in a Thousand Years

I love this quote from Donald Miller’s book. When I read it, I couldn’t help to nod my head in agreement.

When you are not living a good story, you spend a lot of time wondering and hoping you find your purpose, your passion, something meaningful beyond your job, your circumstances. It’s like you feel deep inside you were destined for something more or something bigger, but you just can’t figure out which door to open and which door to shut.

My ah-ha moment about this didn’t come after I made a big shift or change in my life. It came after months of making 1% changes in areas of my life I simply wanted to improve. My business, my relationships, my health, and in my daily impact on others.

I committed to small improvements, and after a period of time, I realized I was living a better story.

I became emboldened after having so many small wins that I started aiming higher and thinking bigger.

The 1% improvements have compounded. Doors that were once hidden and out of sight are now in plain view, and it’s easier to see doors I need to shut.

As Donald Miller points out, once you live a better story, you get a taste of meaning in your life, and you can’t imagine going back to a less meaningful time.

If you’re struggling to find meaning or direction in life, I suggest that you don’t need to make a massive turn or change to find it. You simply start by making 1% improvements in all the important areas of your life.

For example, if your health is at the top of your list of areas to improve, I don’t suggest fasting for as long as you can or starting the latest popular diet, but rather pick one bad thing you can cut out of your diet. Once you get a series of small wins, then add another improvement, get wins, then add another improvement, and so on.

If you decide you want to read more but haven’t read a book in months, I strongly advise not setting a goal to suddenly read for 1 hour every day. Because you are likely to yo-yo on that plan and have more fails than wins.

But if you set an initial reading goal for 10 or 15 minutes, it’s much easier to stack up wins. And it should go without saying that wins feel awesome, and fails feel like…fails.

Tony Robbins frequently states, “Most people overestimate what they can do in a year and underestimate what they can achieve in a decade.”

What he is describing is a real-life Hero’s Journey. Not a Hollywood version, but how each one of us can live a hero’s journey by living and pursuing a good life story over decades.

Our hero’s journey is going to be decades-long and realized by fighting for daily wins.

Living a better story is easier than most realize; it’s simply a matter of 1% daily improvements.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

Veterans Day, 2019

Veterans Day, 2019

I thought about writing about my father today. He was a Veteran, though he died earlier this year and so now I guess I should be thinking about him on Memorial Day. But it’s not Memorial Day. It’s Veterans Day.

And here’s the thing on that…

In the past I’ve seen people get very upset when the two holidays are confused. But once a Veteran, always a Veteran. So even if they’ve passed, it’s okay to honor them on Veteran’s Day.

In fact, it’s okay to honor them every day of the year.

And if someone mistakenly thanks a Veteran on Memorial Day, well I think that’s okay too. Their heart is in the right place.

At the same time we should be cognizant that some Veterans, thought they might appreciate you not saving your gratitude until after they’re gone, will feel uncomfortable being thanked on a day when they’re thinking of their friends who didn’t make it home. This is where the distinction between the holidays is important. But that shouldn’t mean we confine our thanks to a single day of the year.

In fact, it’s okay to honor them every day of the year.

There’s no need to limit gratitude. It’s not like you have a finite supply. In fact, the more gratitude you give, the more you’ll have.

My dad never spoke to me of his service as an Army medic. I didn’t get the impression that it was painful for him to speak of, just that it was something in the past. He didn’t carry the military with him as part of his identity after that period of his life as much as some.

He was, however, fiercely patriotic. It was not uncommon to see him decked out in red, white, and blue. American flag hat, American flag shirt. He stopped short of the American flag shorts. At least, as far as I know.

I didn’t see much of my dad in the last twenty years, though we kept in loose contact in writerly fashion. We played Words with Friends for a few years. There was also a period of time when we emailed back and forth, but the rule was you had to communicate entirely in haiku.

On the 4th of July, he was in his final days. My sister and I later learned that we’d both been hoping he would pass then, because he probably would’ve wanted it that way. He lasted one more week.

Memorial Day, Veterans Day, and the 4th of July all remind me of my father. And each day is a reminder to us all of what we have and our duty to honor those who serve(d) on our behalf.

Memorial Day has an additional significance for me. My first child was born on Memorial Day. She brings it all full circle (cue The Lion King theme); she’s the evidence that remembering those who’ve gone is not closing the book of their lives, but seeing their legacy carry through, one generation at a time.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

What Stands in a Storm

What Stands in a Storm

Mike and I recently returned from a conference/mastermind group in Orlando. I spent the majority of our flights home in that awkward state where you’re trying to cry as quietly as possible.

No, I wasn’t sad to leave Florida.

I wasn’t afraid the plane would plummet from the sky (because I’m always sure it will, so why worry about it?).

I’d made some AMAZING new friendships at the event. But I wasn’t in tears because we had to say goodbye.

I was crying because I was reading What Stands in a Storm by Kim Cross.

It’s a beautifully written, thoroughly researched book about the biggest tornado superstorm in American history (it lasted three days, over 350 separate tornadoes touched down, and claimed hundreds of lives).

I’m not a weather geek.

I don’t know anyone connected to the event (other than a friendly acquaintanceship with the author, but I certainly didn’t know her in 2011 when the storms hit).

Why was I so impacted by this book? I’m aware of the fact that things like death and terror and tragedy are always present in the world, but those facts don’t put me in tears.

And then I realized that that’s the power of Story. It connects us when we are worlds apart. It bridges distance and societies. Story doesn’t care about your religion or politics.

Story is what lifts us. Because even though What Stands in a Storm had science and history and gory details and tragedy, none of those were the point.

The point was that some things will weather any storm.

A stranger’s capacity for kindness.

A community’s ability to come together.

The way that a parent grieving for the loss of their child will still find love and empathy for others experiencing their own losses.

These things are beautiful and important. And I believe that communicating them through Story is also beautiful and important.

We connect. We lift each other up. And sometimes we cry along the way.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

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