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Effort is a Choice

Effort is a Choice

​It doesn’t matter the topic. Whether you’re exploring your creative side, improving your health, learning, or building a business, effort is a choice. You have control over your effort. You either choose to give it your all, or you don’t.

We can rationalize a million ways around effort. Focusing on what other people are (or are not) doing. Indulging in procrastination. Convincing ourselves that it’s not the right time. Waiting for a muse. In reality, none of that matters.

What matters is the effort we bring to the task at hand.

Last month I had two projects on my to-do list that I put off day after day. When I finally said “Enough!” and buckled down to bust out the work, and then completed it, there was a huge sense of relief. Nothing hanging over my head any more.

Why did I keep putting them off? Because they were incredibly unglamorous tasks? Why did I decide NOT to put forth the effort when it first came time to do them? I can come up with a million excuses and cite all of the other things that got in the way, but really it comes down to the fact that I chose not to put in the effort.

When that happens, the pain and disappointment of not having put in the effort compounds day after day, builds on itself. If I don’t want to finish up the accounting on Monday, I’m REALLY not going to want to do it when Friday rolls around. It gets worse as time goes on.

But there’s good news. Because in contrast, when you DO put in the effort, that builds on itself too.

Effort breeds effort.

Productivity begets productivity.

Putting in the effort builds up a greater sense of determination and confidence. To see a challenge through and put the effort in each day spurs me on to choose effort in other aspects of my life.

I recognize that with each endeavor, the effort I bring to the table is a choice.

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Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

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Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

Do It Anyway

Do It Anyway

Mike did a live radio spot on Idaho Matters, a show on our local NPR station. We had the opportunity to speak with Gemma Gaudette about ImpactClub Boise… what it is, how it works, why it’s important.

When I speak in front of people or on the radio, I sweat.

(I sweat in places you don’t want to know about.)

But I love speaking to a crowd and I’m pretty good at it.

Mike is a great speaker because he’s passionate and engaging. But he doesn’t love speaking to a crowd. He can’t stand it if he trips over a word or says the wrong thing. Something we all do.

(My in-laws once confused “biopsy” with “autopsy” … that’s not a mistake you want to make.)

Mike could retreat from public speaking and hide his words away so that he’d never make any mistakes. It would be so easy. No embarrassing moments. No hearing yourself and wanting to cringe. But what a waste that would be.

Instead, this guy who doesn’t love public speaking hosted a live radio show for a decade.

He teaches classes to rooms full of people.

And every quarter he gets up on stage, microphone in hand, and speaks to a packed house about ImpactClub.

He’s still hard on himself if he fumbles a word, but he keeps doing it anyway. Because getting visibility for three local charities (and a huge donation to the one that wins the evening) is more important than whether or not all the words come out as he’d intended.

(Incidentally, the interview we did went great.)

It’s not easy to put yourself out there, especially if it’s not something you naturally love to do. But sometimes you have to do it anyway.

Great ideas only matter if you’re brave enough to put them into action.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

Blue Sky Mind

Blue Sky Mind

I’m a big fan of daily meditation (I use Headspace). I think it’s a means of fostering mental health and as important as diet and exercise. The time I take for myself isn’t just for me. It impacts everyone around me.

One of my favorite visualizations is about Blue Sky.

Picture the Blue Sky, which represents your mind. It has a calm and clarity that are always there. This is your mental baseline.

Sometimes clouds obscure the Blue Sky.

Clouds can be anything… from the cluttered thoughts of a busy life to something that’s been bugging you that you haven’t yet acknowledged to blatant grief.

These are things that might block us from seeing the Blue Sky. Temporarily.

What’s important is to remember that even when the Blue Sky isn’t visible, it’s still there. That peaceful mind, that calm and clarity, is a constant, even when we can’t see it.

The Blue Sky Mind is the underlying foundation of everything. Calm, clear blue sky. All of the other things are just passing through. Some clouds may stay longer than others. Sometimes we’ll experience devastating storms. But behind it all, the Blue Sky remains.

I’ve been asking myself why this particular visualization appeals to me so much. It’s more than just the idea of a Blue Sky itself, though I love all that it implies: open, endless, peaceful, constant.

Before I started meditation, before I began looking at my own behavior and emotions on a different level, I had an unconscious fear that whenever I was in a negative state (fill in the blank: anxious, angry, depressed), maybe there was a danger that the negative emotions could take over and become the norm. Maybe they WERE my norm.

But with the Blue Sky analogy, I can see that isn’t true and not worth the worry. The Blue Sky mind is my baseline.

None of this is new or innovative. It’s a different version of a million other techniques. This one, for whatever reason, appeals to me. It’s my version of deep breaths or refocusing or taking a moment. Or employing a bit of perspective when the moment at hand seems overwhelming. Or remembering that “This too shall pass.”

I’m always opening to learning new techniques. What works for you and why?

If you want to check out Headspace, here’s an invite: http://www.headspace.com/invite/ED7cp

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

5K Day

5K Day

Most of the time Mike and I do our workouts together. Even when we’re not at the same pace (he can complete his 5K up to 7 minutes faster than mine), we typically still struggle through the challenge at the same time.

On previous 5K days, we’ve driven down to the Greenbelt together, set out on our separate paths, and met back at the car when we’re finished.

That wasn’t the case today. Mike had a full schedule and had to do his run before the sun was up, during which time I had to be home helping the kids get ready for school.

When Mike first set out, I felt bad for him. He had to run in the dark, in the cold, on the track at our local high school.

Poor guy. (Sucker!)

I would get to run along the Boise River in warmer weather.

When Mike came back from his run, still at o’dark thirty, I asked how it went.

“Amazing!” he answered, “My fastest run ever. There’s something about the dark, about not being able to see in front of you.”

He did admit that he’d pushed himself to the point of dry heaving at the end of his run. (TMI?) But still, the experience and his performance at least left him dry heaving on cloud nine.

A few hours later, with the kids launched for the day and some basics tasks handled, I set out for the Greenbelt around 10am, only to find that the skies were ominously dark.

Much of my run took place in the rain. I forgot my gloves, my pants kept falling down (more TMI?), and why was I struggling so hard to breathe?

Twice I had to walk to catch my breath, sure that I was about to keel over. I still finished in under 30 minutes, which is what I was aiming for, but it was hard.

I did not feel on cloud nine.

I felt on cloud… whatever the really sucky opposite of cloud nine is.

At the end of the run I sprawled out in the grass and watched a scenario play out in my head…

…a concerned stranger sees my sprawl and is sure that I have, indeed, keeled over. They call an ambulance. It arrives and I explain that I’m simply resting after a difficult run and that I’m refusing treatment. They pressure me and I refuse further, which they take as belligerence, and then the cops are called and before you know it I’m being taken away in handcuffs.

None of that happened.

But it got me thinking about assumptions. How we guess at the outcome of something instead of just letting it play out.

After all, there have been plenty of times when I was sure I wouldn’t be able to complete something, only to surprise myself. And then other times when my arrogance leaves me far short of my goal.

If you think about it, there’s a certain measure of relief in letting go of predictions, moving forward, and seeing what happens. Come what may. Even if it may involve a little bit of dry heaving.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

Getting More Than You Give

Getting More Than You Give

​Rake Up Boise is an annual event where individuals and teams volunteer their time to rake the yards of elderly and disabled residents. Every year I captain the Raking Writers, a team I put together from members of the Idaho Writers Guild.

The resident we were last assigned warned me that people in her neighborhood call her the Leaf Lady. For an hour and a half we raked and bagged leaves. Forty bags in total. There was dog poop to avoid and a nest of disgruntled wasps, but the weather was beautiful and it felt great to be outside on a Saturday morning.

I didn’t grow up volunteering or participating in community service projects. Community service was nothing more than a sentence handed down in lieu of jail time.

And as far as volunteering, I thought that those people must be a better type of person than I was. They were special or super human and I was just normal. You had to be special (or court-ordered) to put time and effort into volunteering. Because I couldn’t for the life of me figure out why you’d do it. I didn’t understand.

Now I look forward to Rake Up Boise all year. As far as volunteer projects go, it’s an easy gig. But when you’re doing it, you can see why it’s so important. I don’t think the Leaf Lady can afford to hire someone to do the job. And how long would it take her if she were to try to tackle that amount of work on her own? But if you get a few people together (and some of them drag their kids along to help), you can knock out the job in an hour and a half, and actually have fun in the process.

Our group of Raking Writers ranged in age from 10 to 70+. One writer who couldn’t make it this year actually had leaf scoopers (the yellow things Ivy’s holding in the picture) delivered to my house when she realized she wasn’t going to participate.

Days like these, and people like the writer who bought me a bright yellow pair of leaf scoopers, make me wonder what opportunities I’m missing. Where can I do more and give more? Not because I need a pat on the back or to keep score, but because I’ve learned through these experiences that they matter, and that, invariably, you get more than you give.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

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