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Working with Your Spouse

Working with Your Spouse

Amanda and I have worked together in different roles and capacities for over 20 years. Currently, we work about 10 feet apart from each other in our home.

Some of our friends cringe at the thought of working that closely with their spouse for so many hours each day, and others say “I could never work from home” because of all the distractions.

For Amanda and me, it’s never been that difficult. But in trying to advise others who struggle with this concept, I’ve had to reverse engineer what we do to make it work so well for us.

First off, Amanda and I are both doers. This helps a lot because we are both motivated to be productive with our day. We love to get shit done.

We also have worked together in many environments outside of a typical office. We are accustomed to working wherever we are. Whether it’s at the kitchen counter or on some remote island in the Pacific, we have no problem working to get important things done.

We also naturally leverage each other’s strengths. I’m stronger at tech stuff, while she is stronger at editing/proofing things. I’m great at brainstorming, and Amanda is great at planning.

Sometimes at the end of the day, we plan for the next day, sometimes we purposely don’t talk about work stuff because one of us needs a mental break from it. The point is, we just figure it out.

The best part is that I am most content when I have Amanda nearby. We don’t have to be talking to each other. In fact, I often wear headphones for most of my day.

That’s not to say I did not like my time spent at my office. I liked my team and the environment we created there. It’s just that I’ve rediscovered that I like working from home better.

I like how I can get up and get straight to work. There is no lost time. I love having Amanda within earshot if I reach a point where I want to leverage her strengths on something. We could do this apart, but it’s just nice to have her nearby, and it’s very efficient.

We make a pretty damn good team, but to be fair, we’ve had a lot of practice at it. Twenty years of working some sort of side hustle or full-time hustle together has honed our abilities.

Earlier this year, we decided to once again go full time working together on the projects and businesses that we plan on continuing for the next 20+ years.

I don’t know where these ventures will take us, but I’m not worried about it, because when I’m working with Amanda, I feel like I’m chasing happiness, and winning every day.

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See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

It’s Never Too Late to Seek Your Full Potential

It’s Never Too Late to Seek Your Full Potential

I was reading a post by my friend Jim where he told a story about how he left some potential on the table when he was a young musician playing in a band in Los Angeles, because he was too consumed with partying and having fun.

Not many people are willing to be that honest about something like that. They instead blame the circumstances or people around them for why they ended up the way they did.

I love how Jim is actively doing something about it now to correct that mistake. It doesn’t matter if it’s days later or decades later, it’s never too late to seek your full potential.

I first witnessed a person leaving potential on the table when I was wrestling in high school. I had a friend who was an incredibly talented wrestler. So good that nobody on the team could come close to beating him. He had all the potential to win the state championship multiple times.

But he was more focused on having fun. Winning came a little too easy for him. Even school came easy to him, so he rarely had to study. Consequently, he didn’t push himself as much as he could have. It was hard for me to watch.

When I would hang out with him outside of school, he would just want to party, and he would really peer pressure me to join him. So much so, I stopped spending time with him.

There were a lot of circumstances working against my friend. His home life was not a stable one. He didn’t have a healthy supportive environment like I had. Which was part of the reason I was rooting for him so much. If he won a state title, he’d likely be able to get a scholarship to a great school and get out of his unhealthy home life.

If he had asked for help of any kind, I was ready to be there for him. But he never did.

Maybe that is why I love Jim’s story so much. It’s a redemption story.

It’s never too late to find your true potential.

Some doors indeed get shut and you can’t reopen them, but that has nothing to do with you committing to improve yourself today.

Don’t settle for being an armchair quarterback in life.
Don’t leave your full potential on the table.

Let’s keep moving, let’s keep training, let’s develop our full potential.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

How To Hit The Curveballs Life Throws At You

How To Hit The Curveballs Life Throws At You

Some of the most successful (on paper) people I know become miserable because they stop fighting and growing.

Some people peak in high school; you know who they are because they still talk about it all the time. They get stuck living out the glory days in their mind because they failed to keep fighting and growing.

Sometimes we stop fighting and growing because life throws us one hell of a curveball, and despite how many times we swing at it, we seem to strike out over and over again.

This is how it went for me with my back issues. I got hurt when I was 23. I kept thinking my body would eventually heal. I would fight through the pain every day.

But each year that went by I got more humbled by my back; I had to fight off depression, knowing my life would be limited and filled with pain as my back issues got worse and worse.

I kept swinging at that life curveball, but I struck out for 12 years straight.

I am fortunate that I didn’t give up. I credit my wife and family for being supportive throughout those years.

I can now hit that curveball. I can stay in the game.

This past month I took part in a physical challenge call GRIT, which involves daily workouts every day of the month. If you miss a day, you are kicked out of the challenge and have to wait until they offer it again to see if you can make it through the whole month.

The challenge was physically and mentally difficult, but each week it felt like I was hitting home runs because I was doing things that I had long thought I would never be able to do again.
I’m not a machine. I still have pain. I have tough days. This morning I had a lot of pain in my right shoulder, and it feels like my hip is out of place.

But I’m still fighting and growing. That’s what I’ve learned is most important.

The primary way that I avoid striking out from life curve balls with my body is morning stretching. It’s the equivalent to going to a batting cage and getting in 100 reps. Stretching keeps me in the game, it allows me to keep fighting and growing. If I skip it, I pay a price, and experience more pain throughout my day.

What kind of curveballs is your life throwing at you?

If life keeps striking you out, maybe it’s time to find a new batting cage and put in some more reps.

There will always be curveballs, how we handle them is what matters.
Convincing ourselves we should stop trying to hit them is where the real danger is.

Your glory days don’t have to be in your past.
Keep fighting. Keep growing.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

Captain, My Captain

Captain, My Captain

I used to have a Captain’s license to operate large and small ships. To get that license I went to a 4-year merchant marine college that was year-round. I studied for a business degree during the day, worked on the ship on nights and weekends, and went to sea during the summer.

This granted me the ability to work on any size tanker, container ship, or cruise ship as an officer, and as a Captain on ships up to 100 tons.

To get such a license you have to learn how to handle emergency responses at sea, including ship fires, evacuations onto lifeboats, and medical situations.

One lesson that was repeatedly demonstrated to us was how to take command and control of an emergency.

Staying calm is always the most important thing, the best Captains always stay calm even in the craziest situations. If they lose their cool, then everyone around them starts to lose their cool, and that’s when things get dangerous and out of control.

Another great trait of a good captain is not getting caught up in doing all the tasks that need to be done, because then you can’t see what else needs to get done. You need see the big picture so you can make the best decisions.

A good friend of mine is a Fire Chief, and he says the same thing. Staying calm is critical, and avoiding the temptation to run in and physically help with the fire, because if he does he is instantly dismissed as the leader on the scene, and another chief is forced to take over because he can’t efficiently direct everyone on scene if he is in the house fighting the fire.

I try to remember these leadership lessons when I am dealing with my own fires because it’s super easy to get sucked into little bs things that distract you from your overall mission.

When you get sucked into the drama, you can’t see what needs to happen to solve the drama.

Taking a step back to look at the whole scene and all the moving parts is how you get the clarity you need to solve the problem.

This is easier said than done. Which is why I’ll sometimes mutter to myself, “Don’t get sucked in, Mike.”

Part of being a good Captain is also not avoiding the issue, and especially never abandoning ship while others are depending on you.

Remember that Captain of the cruise ship that went aground somewhere in the Mediterranean? The boat started sinking and the Captain was one of the first people off the vessel while passengers and crew were still stranded on that sinking ship. I think it was a Greek Cruise Line. Yikes. Let’s just call him Captain Coward.

We can all learn from that, because when things get tough or scary, it’s all too common for humans to ignore a giant hole in their ship, or worse, run away from it.

It’s your ship, be a good captain.

The next time something shitty happens, (and it’s only a matter of time), strive to stay calm and do not get sucked into drama, so you can guide your ship and everyone on board to safe waters.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

Life is Not a Seasonal Sport

Life is Not a Seasonal Sport

I played almost every sport I could in my youth. Growing up on an Island in Alaska, if you played sports, that meant you would either take a multi-day ferry ride or an airplane when it came time to play another team. Playing sports was our primary way off the island.

My challenge was that I was always far from the best player on the team. But I did everything I could to make it on the traveling team. That meant showing up with my best effort all the time.

It bothered me that I wasn’t as good as my friends, so I aimed to make up my lack of talent with hustle.

But with each passing grade level, it becomes harder and harder to make a sports team. Eventually, coaches are forced to cut players, and if you want the starting varsity spot, you have to prove you are the best player available to take that spot.

My motto in sports was, “You can’t outwork me.”

With wind sprint drills, the faster runners would beat me easily, but the longer the coach pushed us, I eventually would lead in sprints because I maintained my speed while they slowed down.

I would add extra workouts in before school, I’d spend more time in the gym hitting the weights, anything to help get an extra edge.

Even with all that effort, I was still far from the best player, but throughout my time playing sports, I knew my coaches always appreciated having me on the team because I set a great example for the other players.

At the end of the season, I wouldn’t be the one recognized for having the best stats, or the most wins, but I was regularly honored with some sort of “Coach Appreciation Award” for my efforts.

At the time, I didn’t think much of these. Another coach’s award? Great. It felt like a consolation prize. I would have much preferred to have the first place trophies.

But now I understand. And I’m grateful. The coaches knew that effort matters, and the fact that they made a special point to recognize and honor me for my efforts humbles me to think about now.

You get to choose the effort you put out every day.

When Oakland Raiders head coach Jon Gruden tutored young quarterbacks, his parting advice was: “Go lead the league in effort. That’s the one thing that requires no talent at all. It’s simply a decision you make.”

“In life, effort matters more than talent, because effort breeds talent.”

In school sports we can get cut, or even if we make the team we eventually run out of time when the season ends.

But with life skills like education, fitness, speaking, parenting, relationships, business, and storytelling, we have an endless arena in which to improve.

And if we commit, if we show up with our best effort every day, our talent improves in 1% increments.

1% improvements can feel like you are not moving forward. Which leads to frustration and often kills effort.

“Life is not a seasonal sport. There is no offseason. You must play the long game.”

We have plenty of time to win the coach’s award in effort and allow the 1% improvements to compound. But don’t take “plenty of time” for granted either. As Gary Vaynerchuck says, be urgent in the micro, and patient in the macro.

Sustained effort is the hardest life-sport there is. But it can yield the biggest wins.

You just have to “go lead the league in effort.”

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

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