Do you remember that song from Bonnie Tyler, called “Holding out for a hero”?
Here is a link to refresh your memory. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bWcASV2sey0

It’s been in a few movies like Footloose, Shrek 2. I don’t when or how I came back across this song, but it recently found its way on to my workout playlist.

I’m not sure if I just have a thing for cheesy rock songs from the 80’s but this silly song has become my favorite when I really need to kick it up a notch in my workout.

Part of my morning routine is to stretch and then do 100 burpees as fast as I can. I listen to soothing music when I stretch, and turn on my workout playlist while I do some warm-up exercises before the burpees.

But for the last couple of weeks, before I start the timer for my burpees, I skip the music up to “Holding out for a hero.” The song is 5:47 minutes long, which corresponds with how long it takes me to do 100 burpees on a good day. So I’m also pushing to finish before the end of the song.

I don’t really know why I’m sharing this with you. This really isn’t a manly rock song after all. I’m certainly not embarrassed that I like this song.

But I do believe we are all holding out for hero, and that hero is us.

We are judged by our actions, and every day we are forced to make decisions where one path is harder, but much more heroic, and the other path is easier, and less heroic.

It’s extremely challenging to choose the heroic path consistently. But you can make the choice easier by playing your heroic theme song before deciding.

When my body wants to stop and take a break when I’m doing those dreaded burpees, this song helps me make the more heroic decision.

I challenge you to find your heroic theme song that inspires you to push harder, to pick the heroic path, and have it ready to play when you feel yourself slipping towards those less-than-heroic decisions.

We are all holding out for a hero, and that hero is you.

We hear this term “raising the stakes” most often with gambling because you have to choose when to “raise” your bet, the more you bet, the higher your “stakes.”

I’m not a fan of gambling. Mostly because I don’t like betting on things when I feel I have little control of the outcome. Some card games have some strategy for sure, but you will never see me put money down on a roulette table or into a slot machine.

However, I am a fan of “raising the stakes” in my life.

I have little reservations about going ALL-IN on parts of my life.

Twenty years ago, I decided to go all-in on my marriage.

I went all-in on my real estate business too. And once more after my girls were born with my decision to travel overseas with them every year.

More recently, I’ve gone all-in once again, with my new venture with Amanda. As we document our journey discovering and living by what we call “Sweet Life Principles,” hence we’ve been writing, reading, learning, and exercising every day in the pursuit of that goal.

I’m not a fan of coasting. Doing something half-ass. At least not with what is most important to me. If I’m not all-in, then I don’t want to play the game.

Something I’ve been reminded of recently is when we are reluctant to go all-in on something important, either out of fear, uncertainty, etc., we can rig the game in our favor, by simply “raising the stakes.”

Have you ever thought about why having an accountability partner causes humans to show up and perform better?

It raises the stakes because your lack-luster performance is no longer impacting just you. Not fully showing up has negative consequences on others. Which, if left unchecked, says something not at all pleasing about your character and your reputation.

I find even when I don’t have accountability partner, but I surround myself with others who are pushing harder than most at their work, or their health, or at improving their relationships, it helps me up my own game because it allows me to see how I can up my game and raise my stakes so I can play on a higher level.

If we are half-assing our way through something, it may be time to raise the stakes or play a different game.

If you hate your job because it feels like you are just chasing a paycheck instead of producing meaningful work, then maybe you are playing the wrong game, or you need to double down on meaningful work outside your day job.

Either way, finding ways to raise the stakes in your life helps you go all-in, play at a higher level, and improve faster.

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​I am learning Spanish right now. Which is no small feat; I’ve been practicing English for over 40 years and still struggle with it.

Amanda is the linguist of the family, as she seems to have a knack for picking up languages faster than most. Plus, she is fantastic with accents, so in addition to learning languages quickly, she can quickly sound like a native wherever we travel.

I, on the other hand, have zero talent in linguistics. Amanda has found great humor in seeing me try to speak English over the years because I tend to mix up my words frequently.

You can see why it’s tempting to have Amanda do all the talking when we are ordering food, buying bus tickets, and checking into hotels in foreign countries. But I’ve been making so much progress in my health and work recently that I want to use that momentum to expand progress to other parts of my life.

Amanda and I travel to Mexico and Spain quite a bit; we have trips planned to go to both countries in the next year. Once these trips were booked, I heard Amanda immediately begin practicing her Spanish through a couple of apps on her phone.

Not wanting to be a linguistical dud my whole life, I decided to fire up those same language learning apps on my phone.

The first thing I’ve noticed in this new language journey is how much time Amanda puts into the learning process. Fifteen to thirty minutes a day is the average, but I’ve seen her go closer to an hour in total time throughout her day a few times.

So I’ve adopted this daily routine and do an average of 20-30 minutes a day learning Spanish. I’m about 4 weeks in this process as I write this.

Here are my six takeaways so far…

1. Progress is addictive.
It doesn’t matter if it involves work, health, relationships, or personal stuff. When I experience progress, I want more of it. I’m lightyears ahead of my starting point. Progress is slow, but it’s measurable, which is inspiring me to keep the streak going.

2. Progress is contagious.
When we see others experience progress, we crave it ourselves. When others see our progress, it can inspire them to take their own action. Amanda inspired me when I witnessed how she was learning and the gains she was making from just using an app on her phone. The kids have seen me take up this challenge and have joined in too. It’s not uncommon to see all 4 of us on the couch practicing Spanish at 7:45 pm.

3. Progress is simple.
To improve, to make measurable gains, it simply takes daily action. It doesn’t matter what it is; nothing beats daily practice. A big part of the reason Amanda is good at learning languages is that she puts time into learning every day. She doesn’t just magically learn new phrases; she repeats them many times until she gets them nailed.

4. Progress is not easy.
Easy is watching Netflix instead of taking 15 minutes to practice something you want to get better at. Fifteen minutes of practice is not hard, but there are days when I just don’t care, I’m exhausted and just want to veg and rest my mind. To overcome this, I often do my Spanish lessons sprawled out on the couch, so I am relaxing while I do it.

5. Progress is a game you can win.
Intentional focused energy to get better every day is a simple recipe for progress. To make it easier, you can gamify the process. One of the language learning apps we use is called Duolingo. This app has attempted to gamify the learning process by putting you in a group of 50 or so other people at a similar learning state, and then rank you based on how many lessons you complete during the week. At first, I didn’t pay any attention to this. But now that I’m faster at completing lessons, I watch the ranking every day, and it regularly pushes me to complete many more lessons each week. But you don’t need an app to gamify progress, you could get a friend or loved one to be your accountability partner, make a chart/game map and mark your progress each day you practice.

I’ve tried to learn Spanish before and always fell flat. I now realize the biggest challenge is just finding a way to practice for 15 minutes every day. I’m one month into this process and I can clearly see progress, but I can also see that is not a short-term journey. Which brings me to my final takeaway…

6. Progress takes patience.
It’s so easy to say, “I’m never going to get this. It’s too hard. I suck.” And I’ve said those things for decades. I think part of the difference now is that I hear my kids saying the same thing, which doesn’t sit well with me. So, I’m going to show them that even Dad, who is horrible at learning languages, can learn to speak Spanish, no matter how long it takes.