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Two Birds, One Stone

Two Birds, One Stone

We all know the phrase, “Kill two birds with one stone.”

(Also, don’t throw stones at birds, that’s really a jerk thing to do.)

But in general, efficiency is a good thing and we can all look for ways to accomplish multiple goals with one action in various aspects of our lives.

The rewards from certain tasks and activities are often naturally twofold. For example, when our family of four makes 100 bags of cotton candy together, that’s definitely a bonding experience and can qualify as “family time,” but it’s also a lesson in business (and an exercise in willpower for our youngest – how not to eat all of your own product).

But I cringe when I see the “two birds, one stone” concept abused, when people shortchange the relationships in their lives because they’re too focused on that other bird that they’re also aiming for.

Grocery shopping isn’t date night. (Unless you do some SERIOUS flirting in the produce section).

And buying something you really want, then pretending it’s a gift for your spouse – lame.

As parents, we’re guilty of this too. Taking your kid to the playground but then staring at your phone the whole time – you may tell yourself you’re killing two birds with one stone, but I’d bet anything that your kid would rather you put the phone down and be present.

CJ, the GRIT trainer, encounters this a lot in the fitness world. Thinking that you’ve exercised because you walked to the post office, instead of truly working the body. While every step and movement is good, that’s not getting two birds with one stone, no matter how we might try to convince ourselves.

I used to do this by reading a book while on the bike at the gym. I told myself it was two birds with one stone. Now I see that I would never make any real physical gains by continuing along with that routine. (But did I get the reading done? Check!)

I believe, for the most part, that it comes down to being honest with ourselves. If it’s been in the back of my mind, bugging me, there’s probably a reason.

On the other hand, I feel like the way I’ve structured my morning routines is a good example of this principle. Not only do I accomplish my workout and other things that are important to me, but I set myself up mentally and emotionally for a good day to come.

Efficiency is great… as long as we’re honest about our actions and their impact. When all is said and done, the relationships in my life are more important than the number of items I cross off my to-do list.

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Tag-Team Parenting

Tag-Team Parenting

This morning over breakfast, I told Mike about a project I’m working on and that I’m falling behind schedule. His immediate response was to carve out a portion of the day during which he would take the girls out and occupy them for a few hours.

This is a perfect example of tag-team parenting, which is one of the most important aspects of our family travels.

Mike and I work every day, whether we’re at home or abroad. Doing so when we travel sometimes presents challenges. I’m currently writing from Mexico, where we’re contending with unreliable internet and insatiable mosquitos.

The true difficulty in remaining productive work-wise when we travel is balancing work life and family life. My daughters aren’t interested in whether or not I’ve made headway with my latest work-in-progress. They just want to go to the beach.

If both Mike and I were fighting for time to get through our respective to-do lists without considering the other person, our household would quickly implode.

The key to keeping that from happening is tag-team parenting. If Mike knows I’m on a deadline, he’ll offer to take the kids for an hour or two. I do the same for him when I know he’s under pressure.

Acknowledging what your partner needs and then stepping up to help them is both simple and powerful. It’s about thinking beyond yourself. It’s about giving.

If Mike and I didn’t both have this mindset in place, I doubt we’d travel for months at a time to other countries. Our trips would have more stress and less enjoyment. By trading off the parental duties, we each allow the other the time and space needed to stay productive. And when we both keep current with our work, we’re able to enjoy our time together as a family without worrying about what didn’t get accomplished.

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Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

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Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. [email protected]

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On Stopping to Think

On Stopping to Think

​Yesterday morning I decided to drive our youngest daughter to school. We only live a few blocks away and she typically rides her bike, but it was bitterly cold and windy. Checking the time also told me that if she rode her bike, she’d be late. I decided to take a few minutes and help her out.

She needed to be at school early for choir practice. There were quite a few other choir kids racing on foot or by bike to get there on time. As well, there were plenty of parents speeding to the elementary school to drop off their kids.

Think about that… speeding to an elementary school.

And here’s where it might be a good idea for us to stop and think.

Of course we don’t want our kids to be late. But that’s not a good reason to be racing your vehicle near an elementary school. I should also mention that it’s still dark at this time of the morning. And remember the part about lots of other kids hurrying on foot or by bike to get there too? Let’s not forget about them.

Here’s another way to think about it…

My kid isn’t late to school because of how fast or slow I drive.

If my kid is late to school, it’s because she wasn’t ready on time.

That’s where the problem originated. The lateness didn’t occur because of what my speedometer says. The lateness occurred much earlier, when she was getting ready for her day.

It might be my job to help her get ready on time, but it’s certainly not my job to try to correct her lateness by driving faster than I should.

The morning wasn’t unique. Every day in the few minutes that lead up to the bell ringing, you’ll see parents careening around corners while little kids are trying to cross the street.

What’s the worst that can happen in that situation?

And what’s the worst that can happen if your child is a few minutes late?

Just some food for thought.

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Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. [email protected]

About Us

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The Gambler & the Investor

The Gambler & the Investor

​Ryan Fletcher, the guy who runs both the StoryAthlete and GRIT challenges in which Mike and are taking part, wrote the other day about the difference between gambling and investing.

Gambling is exciting. There’s a rush that goes along with it. Spin the wheel and who knows what might happen?

Investing is less exciting. It requires small deposits and sustained effort. Not nearly as sexy.

In terms of diet and exercise, here’s the difference:

Gambling: I go on a fad diet and order a bottle of overpriced magic pills off of a late-night infomercial (contains 10% pure snake oil).

Investing: I embrace the monotony of sustained effort over time. I make 1% gains each day. I put the effort in consistently, whether I feel like it or not.

It’s pretty clear which one is going to pay off.

As writers, we often get in the way of our own progress because we struggle with the monotony of small gains, day after day. We don’t want to make the investment.

Instead of embracing the effort required and creating in ourselves the necessary discipline, we get in our own heads and start questioning what we’re doing. Why am I wasting time trying to craft these words that might never get published/read/liked/fill-in-the-blank?

We need to push those self-doubts away, not let them occupy any space in our thoughts, and instead embrace the monotony of the process. Those who are able to do this make huge strides.

Whether you write a sentence, a paragraph, a page, or a chapter, you’re making progress if you can repeat that effort every day. Learn routine, muster discipline, and embrace the journey instead of longing for it to be over.

Invest in your writing, consistently over time, and your yield may far exceed your expectations.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. [email protected]

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

On the Importance of Routine

On the Importance of Routine

My adherence to routine is amusing to some. “Don’t you want to mix it up?” they’ll ask. “What about spontaneity?”

It’s true that by nature I’m a born planner. But I also purposely engineer routine in certain areas because becoming who you want to be demands routine.

I cannot learn another language if I practice every now and then.

I do not build strength by exercising two days per month.

Meditation will not strengthen my mind without consistency to go along with it.

Reading a page of a book once a week is going to leave me terribly confused.

And of course, writing a book does not work if my writing happens only when I “spontaneously” decide to put my butt in the chair.

My friends and colleagues understand that when we meet for coffee or lunch, that commitment has to take place a few weeks out on the calendar. I’m not available for last minute get-togethers. Because only with a solid schedule can I continue building myself and my work.

Friends understand and respect your routines. Worthy colleagues operate within routines of their own. It’s up to us to keep the technological distractions at bay.

When we travel, we do so with a different set of routines. I know, routine couched inside of an adventure is weird, but it works. We maintain the routines that keep us productive and efficient, but we do so in a framework that adapts to life on the road (or in a camper van… or on board a ferry boat).

“Creature of Habit” sounds kind of creepy. Because who wants to be called a creature? And “habit” makes me think of all the bad ones. And nuns.

I’m advocating for that phrase to be changed to Queen of Routine. That sounds so much better.

Do you implement routines? In what areas do they best work for you?

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. [email protected]

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

Be Selfish with Your Time

Be Selfish with Your Time

​One of the most common excuses I hear from people about why they haven’t achieved something is that there’s not enough time.

But really, time moves at the same pace for all of us. No one gets more hours in a day than anyone else. It can’t be bought or bartered.

What we achieve (or don’t) has less to do with how much time we have and more to do with what we prioritize.

Prioritizing isn’t nearly as hard as people make it out to be. Here’s my free 2-step guide on how to prioritize:

  1. What is most important to you?
  2. Do that first.

I realize that we are constantly bombarded with distractions. A million shiny objects vying for our attention. If they threaten the best use of your time, you have to try to limit your exposure to them.

Sometimes it’s not the shiny object, but the emotional pull associated with how we spend our time. If you share your home with a partner and/or kids, you know this well.

Time spent comes with guilt.

Your mind is flooded with all the other things you could be doing. And maybe you convince yourself you should be doing them.

Being selfish with your time is hard, but necessary. Claiming your time is often harder than whatever you set out to accomplish with that time.

But you have to do it. There are no gains without effort. The book won’t write itself.

I’m not writing this from an expert perspective. Claiming my time is something I struggle with daily.

I have wins and losses. Days when my time is spent exactly as I hope, and others when I kick myself for giving time to people or entities that don’t deserve it. But I know in either case that there’s no such thing as “not enough time.” It all comes down to how I use it.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. [email protected]

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

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