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Trust the Process

Trust the Process

​I’m a firm believer in process. This is the means by which you approach any significant undertaking and break it down into manageable pieces.

My first understanding of process in action came in relation to writing. I learned the hard way, over many years.

Because…

Writing a book was impossible. After all, a whole book? How long would it take me? How terrible would it be? Maybe instead of writing, I should buy books on writing and talk about writing and put away the dishes. Anything OTHER than write.

Once I broke through these initial barriers (only took me a solid decade), I wrote one word at a time, one sentence, one paragraph, one page, one chapter. Eventually, I had a manuscript. I had worked through the process.

Of course, it continued from there. About half of that initial manuscript was eventually scrapped. There were rounds of edits (more process), but each iteration was a step forward.

When the manuscript eventually reached book form, I looked back over the previous five years and clearly saw the process that had helped me reach that point. By identifying the process, and this time embracing it instead of fighting it along the way, I was able to make it more efficient for the next book.

I learned to trust the process.

And now I see how process applies to other areas of my life:

Learning another language: Daunting! Impossible!

Unless you adopt a process. For me this might be a combination of programs. One language lesson after another is the process.

Physical health: I’ll get in shape on Monday… Maybe next month I’ll join a gym.

Again, this just boils down to process. It is, literally, just one foot in front of the other.

Now I’m wondering what other areas in my life might benefit from incorporating process. What am I not seeing? Where can I improve?

If process works for you, I’d love to hear about it. Because I think with the right process, we can accomplish far more than we might think.

You know that saying, “There’s an app for that”? I think that way about process. Whatever it is you’re after, no matter how out of reach it might seem… “There’s a process for that.”

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The Gospel of Story

The Gospel of Story

I attended a Writers Guild luncheon yesterday and had the honor of introducing screenwriter and novelist Samantha Silva. She detailed her journey from screenwriter to novelist and all of the pitfalls she experienced along the way.

Nearing the end of her talk, she spoke of how she will continue to preach “the gospel of story.”

As she described it…

“Story is how we tell each other what it is to be human.”

When she said those words, you could feel the power of them wash over the room of writers.

I’ve been thinking of those words ever since.

Story fosters connection. Story allows us to communicate our joy and despair and all that occupies the space in between.

Making that link to another human is powerful. It is why I make reading and writing daily priorities.

I believe that far more can be healed with what you’ll find in a library than in a pharmacy. It’s that powerful.

If you doubt this, take a moment to think of a story that’s changed your life. I’m sure you have one.

Then think for a minute if you might have a story that could change someone else’s life. I bet you have one of those as well.

Do you tell your story? Do you paint it, act it, shout it, write it, live it?

What’s your story?

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Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. [email protected]

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Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

My Dream Office

My Dream Office

​My environment has a huge impact on my productivity and the quality of the work I do. Because of this there have been times when I’ve tried to create the perfect office. I wanted to optimize my environment.

You have to have the right desk. And lighting. What about inspirational posters? Collectors’ editions of literary works?

Good pens. A writing hat.

I’m not making that last one up. I once read a book that advised having a special hat that you wear when you write. So you know that when you put that hat on your head, it’s time to get into a zone of hyper-creative and accelerated productivity.

Maybe you just need to make sure there’s a pot of magic fairy writing dust on your desk. If you’ve read Stephen King’s On Writing, then you probably know I’m talking about cocaine.

Is that what makes a dream office?

Hopefully you don’t need me to tell you that the answer is no. It’s up to you whether you want to go full Hunter S. Thompson as far as your drug consumption, but having an idealized dream office is not the equivalent of optimizing your environment.

It turns out that when it comes to optimizing your environment, an office has nothing to do with it.

Most people are surprised to learn that I do not have an office. I don’t even have a desk. I do the majority of my work when sitting at my kitchen island (where I am now). It’s a large island and I occupy one corner of it, only putting away my laptop and notebooks when we have company.

I am adaptable. I have written books at the kitchen island, but also in bed, on the couch, at Barnes & Noble, and in homes and hotels around the world.

I optimize my environment by knowing exactly what I need, while remaining adaptable. I know that stressing over the perfect environment is not optimizing it, but a form of procrastination. There is a difference between cleaning the house as a means of procrastination (sometime I do that, too) and creating the order I need to function at my best.

No matter where I am, there must be a sense of order around me. If it’s chaos, I deal with that chaos and create the order I need.

My environment includes the people around me. I do not write during the summer when school is out, because I find myself surrounded by small humans who pepper me with questions and endless requests for snacks. If I do need concentrated time when my children are home, I ask my husband for help and he always obliges. Then I lock myself away into an ordered and optimized environment.

Mike and I have no problem working in the same room, unless he decides to crank up Journey and have a sing-a-long, which he is somehow able to do while working.

My optimized environment is silent, while his may include music (“Dooon’t stop… Belieeeeevin’!”). Headphones come in handy.

Most hours of the day, however, we work just a few feet apart, each available as a resource to the other when needed.

(“Mike, help! My computer is being an asshole.”)

(“Amanda, how do you spell ‘consciousness’?”)

In these unexpected ways, without a desk and not even a teeny bit of cocaine, I optimize my environment.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. [email protected]

About Us

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Do It Anyway

Do It Anyway

Mike did a live radio spot on Idaho Matters, a show on our local NPR station. We had the opportunity to speak with Gemma Gaudette about ImpactClub Boise… what it is, how it works, why it’s important.

When I speak in front of people or on the radio, I sweat.

(I sweat in places you don’t want to know about.)

But I love speaking to a crowd and I’m pretty good at it.

Mike is a great speaker because he’s passionate and engaging. But he doesn’t love speaking to a crowd. He can’t stand it if he trips over a word or says the wrong thing. Something we all do.

(My in-laws once confused “biopsy” with “autopsy” … that’s not a mistake you want to make.)

Mike could retreat from public speaking and hide his words away so that he’d never make any mistakes. It would be so easy. No embarrassing moments. No hearing yourself and wanting to cringe. But what a waste that would be.

Instead, this guy who doesn’t love public speaking hosted a live radio show for a decade.

He teaches classes to rooms full of people.

And every quarter he gets up on stage, microphone in hand, and speaks to a packed house about ImpactClub.

He’s still hard on himself if he fumbles a word, but he keeps doing it anyway. Because getting visibility for three local charities (and a huge donation to the one that wins the evening) is more important than whether or not all the words come out as he’d intended.

(Incidentally, the interview we did went great.)

It’s not easy to put yourself out there, especially if it’s not something you naturally love to do. But sometimes you have to do it anyway.

Great ideas only matter if you’re brave enough to put them into action.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. [email protected]

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

Getting More Than You Give

Getting More Than You Give

​Rake Up Boise is an annual event where individuals and teams volunteer their time to rake the yards of elderly and disabled residents. Every year I captain the Raking Writers, a team I put together from members of the Idaho Writers Guild.

The resident we were last assigned warned me that people in her neighborhood call her the Leaf Lady. For an hour and a half we raked and bagged leaves. Forty bags in total. There was dog poop to avoid and a nest of disgruntled wasps, but the weather was beautiful and it felt great to be outside on a Saturday morning.

I didn’t grow up volunteering or participating in community service projects. Community service was nothing more than a sentence handed down in lieu of jail time.

And as far as volunteering, I thought that those people must be a better type of person than I was. They were special or super human and I was just normal. You had to be special (or court-ordered) to put time and effort into volunteering. Because I couldn’t for the life of me figure out why you’d do it. I didn’t understand.

Now I look forward to Rake Up Boise all year. As far as volunteer projects go, it’s an easy gig. But when you’re doing it, you can see why it’s so important. I don’t think the Leaf Lady can afford to hire someone to do the job. And how long would it take her if she were to try to tackle that amount of work on her own? But if you get a few people together (and some of them drag their kids along to help), you can knock out the job in an hour and a half, and actually have fun in the process.

Our group of Raking Writers ranged in age from 10 to 70+. One writer who couldn’t make it this year actually had leaf scoopers (the yellow things Ivy’s holding in the picture) delivered to my house when she realized she wasn’t going to participate.

Days like these, and people like the writer who bought me a bright yellow pair of leaf scoopers, make me wonder what opportunities I’m missing. Where can I do more and give more? Not because I need a pat on the back or to keep score, but because I’ve learned through these experiences that they matter, and that, invariably, you get more than you give.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. [email protected]

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

Talent Craves Dedication

Talent Craves Dedication

​In the last days of my father’s life, I was tasked with writing a few words to be read by my sister at his funeral. This meant sitting down in front of my computer and staring at a blank screen for a few hours. Because what is there to say, so much and not enough, all at once.

My father was best known as the New York Times bestselling author of dozens of books, translated into dozens of languages. Some of his work made it to the screen, like Not Without My Daughter, Midnight Express, and Freefall. He was nominated for a Pulitzer Prize.

Anyone at his funeral would know this about him. And I was sure that others would mention these accomplishments, because they certainly merit it.

I wanted to focus on what came before all of that.

I stepped away from the blank screen that faced me and walked by the spines of hardbacks with the name William Hoffer on them. Instead of looking for inspiration in the work he was best known for, I went to the downstairs closet.

I retrieved an old cardboard box that my sister sent me two decades prior. It contains faded newspapers and magazine clippings, a vast body of work of which any writer could be rightfully proud.

Articles for Popular Mechanics and Ladies Home Journal and everything in between. Stories on crime and tech and economics and science. He researched and wrote about New Age religions. There’s even a piece from the 1970s on the wage gap (yes, still timely).

This box of old articles means a lot. It’s a demonstration of that fact that yes, my father was a gifted writer, but he was also extremely dedicated. He worked hard and over a long period of time.

Like any worthwhile endeavor, writing requires practice and dedication. There are no overnight successes. You don’t sign up for your first marathon and expect to win, or decide to take up French and think you’ll be fluent tomorrow.

Of course, I wrote about other things as well, but this is one lesson from him that I prize – the importance of dedication and determination. When I see the “successes” of others, I remind myself of this: while an accomplishment might appear straightforward or the result of luck, I might not be seeing the extent of the work that came before.

I think having a gift or talent is a wonderful thing, but it will never be fully developed unless you’re willing to pair it with dedication and determination.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. [email protected]

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

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