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Do It Now, Later Will Be Worse

Do It Now, Later Will Be Worse

“Later” should be four letters. It’s certainly a curse word. We should wince when hear it.

When I don’t want to do something, there is always a seductive voice telling me all kinds of rational reasons why I should put it off until “later.”

This voice says, “Your back is sore, if you go exercise now, you could make it worse.”

The next day it says, “You’re behind on your assignments, get caught up first. You can exercise later.” 

Pretty soon “later” becomes next week, month, next year, a decade can go by in the blink of an eye.

I believe our brains are hardwired to seek comfort as part of our natural survival instinct. The problem is that there is no off switch. There is always some voice in our head telling us to slow down, to eat that food loaded with calories, to rest on the couch instead of going for a walk.

The pain you are feeling could be serious, so it’s probably better to stop moving. Do you know what I’m talking about? When you know in the back of your head that it’s not serious pain and that you’re perfectly capable, but you let yourself entertain the possibility, because it provides a perfect excuse.

Each day is a battle to shut the voice up. I’ve listened to that voice too often in the past. I know what happens when I give in and push things off to “later.”

The best way I’ve found to overcome that seductive voice in my head, convincing me to do something later, is to simply do the opposite. I try to answer back with, “I’m going to do it now; it will be worse if I wait until later.”

My comfort-seeking brain does not like the sound of “worse.” And then there is always the wonderful feeling of satisfaction of having accomplished what you set out to do.

Later = Worse. Do it now.

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Who Needs Sleep?

Who Needs Sleep?

​I’m a driven person attracted to driven people. I put a multitude of systems in place to feed that drive, to capitalize on it.

Calendars, priorities, overwhelming projects broken down into manageable pieces. I get an undeniable high off of completing a task.

I’m driven in personal aspects of life too. My relationships with my husband, children, friends, and community – each of these relationships is a weighty and treasured asset, not one that I take for granted.

I’m driven in terms of my health. I implement daily exercises to improve it physically, mentally, emotionally, and intellectually.

Putting all of that together leads me to one truth: Time is our most precious commodity. Never enough hours in the day. We like to think that this is unique to us and our time, but we did not invent the wheel; we just continue the grind. Of this, I am sure.

Needing more time is a problem that breeds a nasty and negative solution: sleep less.

That’s the answer, right? Get up earlier. Stay up later. I took this a step further and combined it with my already established, unhealthy sleep habits: laptop and phone by my side at night, the DND setting off. Sleep like crap. Rise. Repeat.

There are other ways to find time: Less television and less Internet produce more time for other things. And if you actually track the time you give to keeping up appearances on Facebook or watching America’s Got Talent, you’ll realize how much time you could have used cultivating your own talent.

Once I understood the folly in letting sleep become a casualty, I began to see how often sleep deprivation is worn like a badge of honor in our hyper-productive world. Pissing matches over which entrepreneur works the latest and gets up earliest, continually upping the ante by dialing back the alarm.

The INTELLIGENT early risers make no excuse for the fact that while they might rise long before the sun comes up, they are also in bed at an hour that gives them time to get the sleep they need.

Getting by on little sleep does not give me more time. In fact, it robs me of time, because the hours I do have will find me irritable, dull, and incapable of focus.

To martyr yourself in this way is to demonstrate the ultimate act of disrespect to yourself and your health.

So, who needs sleep?

I do. And so do you.

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Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. [email protected]

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Use Your Library Card

Use Your Library Card

One of the most important ways that writers can learn and improve is by reading. Every now and then I meet a writer who says they don’t have time to read. Bullshit, time to prioritize. A writer who doesn’t read is not doing her job. It’s also folly to feel guilty about time spent reading. It’s okay if part of your job is enjoyable.

Reading is the passive acquisition of knowledge – about structure, language, plot, motivation. When you read something terrible, you take note of why it’s terrible and learn what not to do. When you read something that sparkles, you figure out why and learn to make your own words more impactful.

There’s knowledge to be gained everywhere, not strictly from nonfiction. Fiction teaches us about interpersonal relationships and the elements of a compelling story. You can drill it down further by genre: sci-fi teaches us to think beyond what we know to be possible; thrillers demonstrate the power of easing and increasing tension in intervals; romance reminds us that emotion has the power to override all logic and reason.

Every time you read, you improve your grasp of language, spelling, and grammar. If you actively want to improve in this area, subscribe to Grammar Girl or Daily Writing Tips. Learn the differences between bear/bare, your/you’re, affect/effect, ie/eg. It takes a minute of your day and is a great way to get 1% daily gains to improve your writing over time.

There’s popular advice out there about leveraging the people around you. About surrounding yourself with people who display the qualities you most admire.

There’s Jim Rohn’s quote: “You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

And you’ve probably heard: “Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.”

Reading not only allows you to leverage the knowledge of others, but also gives you complete control in deciding what that knowledge will be, and the scope of it can extend far beyond the five people around you.

When it comes to harnessing knowledge and using it to improve ourselves, I believe that reading is the easiest, cheapest, most enjoyable, and most effective way to do it. It all comes back to that library card.

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Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. [email protected]

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The High Road

The High Road

Yesterday I wrote about the GRIT workout that involved sandbags. Today I found out that while most of the GRIT members were suffering through the physical challenge, there was one who was dealing with an added difficulty.

Heather had to get her workout done, but also had to watch her kids. So she went to a park so the kids could play while she knocked it out.

Mike and I had a similar experience. Emilia had her tennis tournament, so we did our workout in between her matches on a lovely stretch of grass that was far enough away from our twelve-year-old so as not to embarrass her (“Mom, don’t you dare do your weird workout where everyone can see.”)

But like a lot of GRIT members, Heather didn’t have the luxury of doing hers in hiding. She needed to be able to keep an eye on her kids.

This put her in view of others, most of whom paid no attention as she hauled her sandbag back and forth, and army-crawled, and did all of the other exercises.

Except for one guy. One jerk who took pictures of her and talked trash (her children heard it too).

And do you know what Heather did?

She took the high road.

She focused on her workout and used the opportunity to teach her son that: “we DO NOT allow ignorant people with small minds and no manners to keep us from doing the things that are important to us. The things we find value in. No matter how silly we may look doing them.”

THAT is grit. The workout is easy in comparison. The workout is physical. But having the mental strength to ignore a heckler, to find the lesson in there for her children, that’s GRIT on a different level.

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Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. [email protected]

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There Is No Finish Line

There Is No Finish Line

A prompt for a recent writing assignment was “I Know It Never Ends.” I interpret this as the difference between sustained efforts over time versus crossing a finish line.

Because when it comes to the important stuff, there is no finish line.

You cannot reach a goal weight and have “won” the diet.

You don’t finish writing a book and then check writing off your to-do list for the rest of your life.

You don’t finish reading a book and then throw away your library card.

You don’t get a degree and then decide you are done with learning.

I can’t tell myself that I did a really great job parenting yesterday, so I can have today off.

All of these aspects of life are fluid and malleable.

Our attention to each of them contributes to who we are, as a whole. Each requires continued evaluation and maintenance. There’s no finish line to cross.

Sustained effort isn’t easy and there’s no such thing as perfect.

I’m super-awesome at not being perfect. Yay, me!

For me, “You deserve it” is really seductive. I’m treat-motivated. I’m a Labrador. I excel at rewarding myself. Those rewards are what keep me going. I’m not a martyr or masochist – I have no desire to exist in pain-suck-awful all the time.

What I must do is engineer positive rewards. They don’t come in the form of fast food or slacking off. The reward has to be going out to eat but still making the right choices. A cocktail on the deck with my husband, but not the whole bottle. The occasional movie night, but no television more often than not.

I must also remain cognizant of the fact that there is a connection between atypical effort and the reward. If I want the treat, I have to chase the ball to exhaustion. The reward should not be the norm. That’s an easy trap for me to fall into. The effort wanes but the rewards persist. I want to be honest about that connection and keep it in balance.

Society pushes treats as the norm. I read a post by a trainer years ago talking about how, once upon a time, cake was something you had once a year on your birthday. It seems now that we’re drowning in sugar. Soda addictions, $5 Starbucks concoctions masquerading as cups of coffee, every hour is happy hour, and would you like the six-ounce glass of wine or the nine-ounce? (Nine, please.)

There is no finish line when it comes to being our best, to living healthy, happy lives and doing good for the people around us.

There are rewards along the way when the effort truly merits them, but we have to keep moving and working hard to earn them.

When I’ve worked hard to earn that reward, I have zero guilt about it. And because I realize there is no finish line, I’m not gunning for some intangible goal (like perfection… ha!). I’m just doing my best and enjoying myself along the way.

 

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. [email protected]

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

Quit Is a 4-Letter Word

Quit Is a 4-Letter Word

I’m not even sure if Mike remembers this, but very early on in our relationship we had a conversation about the intersection of health/weight/fitness. I’m not sure how it started, maybe we knew someone whose weight was seriously impacting his or her health. Maybe we knew a couple in which one partner had seemingly given up.

(Self-awareness check: I feel like an asshole even writing that, because we never know the extent of what someone else is going through. That presumption is so arrogant.)

In any case, the conversation focused on the act of completely giving up. Of deciding that nutrition and exercise are too hard, not worth it. That urge to just say screw it, pass the Doritos, I don’t care anymore and this is just how it’s going to be.

We were in our early 20s. Mike was still an athlete, playing rugby. I’d been an athlete but was away from sports and learning that my newly adult body did not cooperate in the same way that it had during my athletic, teenage years. Overall though, we were both young and healthy and in decent shape.

(I fully recognize that it’s easy to make a pact for the continued pursuit of good health when you’re already in good health. It’s much more difficult when you’re facing an uphill battle.)

The above conversation culminated in a promise to each other:

We made a pact that we would never give up.

It didn’t matter how much either of us weighed at any point in our lives. It didn’t matter what size clothes we wore or what we looked like. This was not a conversation that sprouted from vanity or concern about the attractiveness of our mate.

What mattered was that we would never throw in the towel. Never say screw it. Never give up. Never accept a sedentary life and the compromised health that goes along with it.

Keep trying. Keep showing up.

In the past twenty years there have been many wins…

Once upon a time I was a smoker.

(Being on other side of those chains – it’s true freedom.)

Once upon a time soda and fast food were a normal part of life.

(No thanks, I’m good!)

And there have been many wastes of our time: diets, fads, snake oil, magic pills, and items ordered off of late-night infomercials. But hey, we learned from each of those experiences.

What matters is that the pact is still true.

We put effort into being healthy, for our kids, for each other, and for ourselves.

We keep showing up.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. [email protected]

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

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