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The Price of Kindness

The Price of Kindness

We all know someone who is kindness through and through. I’m sure you can think of a handful of people in your life who exude kindness 24/7. Half a dozen names come to my mind, both men and women, who are shining examples of what it is to be kind. It’s like kindness is their default setting.

To be completely honest… I’m not wired that way. It’s not that I’m unkind, but I don’t have that inherent and overt goodness. It’s okay. I have other great qualities.

But when I think about what it is to be kind, it doesn’t always mean going out of your way to help strangers and give compliments and donate your time. Sometimes kindness is as simple as holding your tongue.

Easier said than done if you have the potential to be a snarky loudmouth.

(And yes, I have that potential.)

When I find myself about to criticize someone, I want to pause and ask myself a few questions:

1. Does their behavior affect me?

It’s worth a minute of thought.

Does my neighbor’s appearance/car/politics/pets/kids/music/hairstyle truly impact my personal happiness? Probably not. Because we are each the ones responsible for our own personal happiness. I am responsible for my happiness.

If someone has a hobby or style I don’t share, or a passion for something I don’t particularly care about, that doesn’t make it wrong.

2. Will any good come from my commentary?

Will it change anything? Will I feel better somehow? If so, what does that say about me? And again, why am I associating someone else’s actions or habits with my own happiness?

Most of the time, I can choose a path of kindness simply by withholding judgement and biting my tongue.

The beautiful part about it is that doing so costs me nothing. Sometimes taking the high road is as easy as remaining silent.

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Compounding Benefits

Compounding Benefits

​Mike and I are more than halfway through our 4th month of GRIT. We’ve done 4 consecutive months of these challenges – daily physical exercises followed by writing prompts, the results of which are shared within the private GRIT group.

We are also approaching the halfway mark of another alcohol-free period, which I like to think of as: 4 Weeks of Love for Your Liver.

I’d like to say that all of this has resulted in a bikini body, but that’s not the case. I’m actually okay with that. I’ve built muscle, endurance, and trimmed *some* fat.

But the biggest benefit to focusing on my physical health is, hands down, the benefit to my mental and emotional health.

Exercising in the morning sets the rest of the day up to be both positive and productive.

Taking a break (at least a few weeks) from unhealthy products, whether that’s alcohol and/or sugar and/or processed foods, is liberating and rejuvenating.

Better sleep, more energy, greater clarity – all of these are gifts which we are capable of giving ourselves.

Everyone knows I’m no health nut. I’m not an exercise fanatic. But by making a few small changes here and there, I can engineer my physical health in a way that benefits my mental and emotional health, as well. It’s a win/win… win… win. (That’s 4 wins: physical, mental, emotional, and I threw in a 4th for the money you save when you take a break from alcohol and/or crap food).

The biggest struggle I see in those around me is the fight for time. We can’t buy more of it. It’s relentless in its passing. We all want more, feel we need more, but we can’t GET more.

The beauty in doing something good for your overall health is that it takes little to no time. Giving up alcohol allows you to make more of the time you have. GRIT workouts take as little as 12 minutes.

Being good to yourself feels good. It also negates any guilt you might otherwise feel when you choose to splurge. Work hard. Play hard.

Here’s to your health.

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See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

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Our Experience With The GRIT Challenge

Our Experience With The GRIT Challenge

Amanda and I are in the middle of our 5th month of doing GRIT, which is prescribed daily workouts that differ each day of the week. When we first started them, we didn’t think our bodies would be able to handle everyday workouts, and we were super worried about the time commitment.

But here we are, still doing daily GRIT workouts, and the transformation of what bodies can do now compared with what we could do when we started is shocking. 

There is a time commitment to doing GRIT, (typically 15-35 minutes), but far less than going to exercise classes or a gym, because we do everything from our home. When there is a running day, we typically jog around the neighborhood. 

But the most significant difference between GRIT and other exercise programs is the community built within it. You get assigned to a team, and you have to report to them and the entire group each day of how your workout went, as well as some additional context based on a daily prompt/affirmation.

What happens in these conditions is that you get to see and witness the full scope of the pain, hardship, grit, transformation, and triumph from your team members and the entire group doing the challenge.

You see the perspective of people in their 60’s and 70’s of why they are doing this and how they inspire others. And those who have battled their weight for years put in the work, day after day, and for the first time in years are not only losing weight but seeing their confidence soaring.

When you report to a team each day, they see the good, bad, and the ugly because we all have tough days. Sometimes our bodies are stiff and sore and don’t want to move, some days we are just so exhausted from the daily drama of work, and other days you see people struggling with the relationships within their home. Despite all that, they still get their workout done because the team is relying on them, and they made a commitment to themselves to get through the challenge.

GRIT has the highest accountability metrics I’ve ever seen for an exercise regime. Because if you fail to report in full each day, you are booted from the challenge until the next month. Seriously. There are no excuses.

We’ve had people on vacation in Bali doing their workouts each day on the beach and in airports on their way back. 

In the first month, we lost only two people out of 60, which probably is the most shocking part. The extreme accountability and team support helped so many people get through it.

The 2nd, 3rd, and 4th month was the same. Nearly everyone made it through this tough challenge while maintaining their busy lives. Just when you think you have it tough, you see someone in the challenge experiencing something much worse. We get through the challenge together.

This is why I believe the GRIT challenge will continue to grow. It’s near impossible to find this level of overall improvement across a group of people. I’m very excited to be a part of this new movement.

If you want in on next month’s challenge, fill out the form on this website: https://BusinessofUs.com/go/GRIT

I can’t tell you what the daily workouts will be. They change every month. I can only tell you it won’t be easy. There are modifications for just about every fitness level and condition. But even with those modifications, expect it to be hard. 

Reach out to me if you have any questions. 

If you keep thinking about it, you might never do it. Just rip the band-aid off and commit to investing in yourself right now. Sign up with the rest of the GRIT community and me right now before you talk yourself out it. 

https://BusinessofUs.com/go/GRIT

Cheers to doing hard things that make us better.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

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Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

Mastering the Mind & Emotions

Mastering the Mind & Emotions

​When it comes to the mind and emotions, I see this area as far more difficult to gain mastery over than the physical body.

It’s easy to get caught up in the mind and emotional because of it. The words “caught up” make me think of water, getting swept away.

One of the best things I can do for myself is just be aware that this is happening. Have the presence of mind to step back and look at things more objectively.

If I remember to do this, there are cases when I realize that there’s no need to get caught up in the current, and that actually I just need to put my feet down and stand up.

Mastering the mind and emotions is a way to avoid unnecessary stress (on both myself and those around me) and keep the presence of mind to be who I want to be, no matter the situation.

When I’m ruled by my emotions and lose that presence of mind, it’s usually because there’s some sort of fear at the root of it. Fear is what drives the emotions.

Note: I make a big distinction between getting emotional about a cause versus being passionate about a cause.

• A negative emotional state equates to something having a detrimental effect on our personal well-being.
• Being passionate about a cause means we take action outside of ourselves to further an issue that we care about.

There’s a great quote by Louisa May Alcott: “I’m not afraid of storms, for I’m learning how to sail my ship.” By practicing mastery of the mind and emotions, we negate any cause for fear.

For me, meditation plays a huge part in this because much of it is about recognizing the thoughts that come and go as just that: thoughts. They are the clouds that pass through occasionally, but the blue sky behind them is always there.

Remembering that (and putting it to good use when feeling consumed by fear) is my goal. And daily meditation is one part of “learning how to sail my ship.”

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

How to Change Your Life

How to Change Your Life

​In terms of my personal health and fitness, I’ve always been a two-steps-forward/one-step-back kind of girl. I move slow and steady, but generally in the right direction.

That is… until now.

This year has been a game-changer. I am in high gear.

We started by training for and completing a half-marathon, then began the GRIT challenges we’ve been posting about. What we’re doing now takes less time, but is more effective, than any other diet or exercise I’ve tried.

I feel like I’ve been able to take longer strides on those two steps forward and shorten the single steps back into baby steps.

The workouts are hard. No joke, but often as quick as 15 minutes.

It all comes down to a body in motion versus a body at rest.

One reason why these challenges are so effective is that they demand more than you think you are capable of. Putting forth more effort than you thought you could builds momentum to keep that effort going.

I’m really appreciative (though it would have been hard to get me to admit it along the way) that there was no option to take a day off. If you fail to do your workout and post in the group, you are booted entirely and have to wait for next month’s 28-day challenge to begin again. So you have to fully commit. There are no workout-cheat-days. That keeps the momentum going.

After completing my second GRIT challenge, we were asked to reflect on our results. Here are some of mine.

Mind: I feel more present, relaxed, calm, confident, at peace, capable, and optimistic. I enjoy every day. I’m not afraid of asking myself hard questions and digging deep to find the answers. I’ve always been a writer, but hadn’t written on the topics that we touch upon here. It’s tapped into gratitude. I feel constant gratitude.

Body: We hauled our hand-me-down fake Christmas tree up from the shed. It comes in three sections that stack together. In the past Mike has carried the two bigger sections of it and I’ve just carried the top part because the thing is so darn heavy. But on Friday I picked up the middle section of it and wondered why I’d ever thought it was heavy. Then I realized that it’s exactly the same weight as it was last year; I just happen to be a heck of a lot stronger now. And as far as vanity is concerned, I’ve lost two inches from my thighs, two from my hips, and one inch at my stomach.

Business: Physical strength and getting a workout done early in the morning effects nearly everything that follows throughout the day. I’m more confident and capable, which bleeds into every aspect of my work. I’ve unearthed a manuscript that I’ve been sitting on for two years and I have at least two releases planned for 2020. I feel like I’ve made huge strides in moving forward.

Mike has started posting our workout videos on Facebook. Previously we’ve only posted them in the private GRIT group. The people I’ve met through this have inspired me and truly changed me for the better. Maybe we can pass that light along to someone else.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

I Find the Pleasure in the Monotony

I Find the Pleasure in the Monotony

As I was lifting a kettlebell over my head for 6 rounds this morning, I couldn’t help to think of the monotony of regular exercising.

I thought about monotony again when I was doing my 100 burpee routine.

I don’t experience much pleasure in doing those exercises. But I do find pleasure completing them before 7am, knowing I still have a full day in front of me and I’ve already feel like I won a big part of my day.

I know that to change my body, to develop my skills as writer, to learn a new language, takes years and even a lifetime of dedicated practice.

This is not what most people want to hear; they want a quick fix. Amanda posted a great essay recently about how there is no finish line, and I agree entirely. But at times that can sound like a death sentence of monotony and struggle.

Signing up for an additional month of 28 Day GRIT Challenge is a good example of this. When you complete a 28-day challenge, you naturally want to celebrate a job well done, and we should celebrate our wins, but signing up for another one? And then another? And Another?

Who in their right mind would do that?

Only someone who finds pleasure in results and self-improvement, and who is willing to endure the monotony to experience those pleasures.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

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