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Do It Anyway

Do It Anyway

Mike did a live radio spot on Idaho Matters, a show on our local NPR station. We had the opportunity to speak with Gemma Gaudette about ImpactClub Boise… what it is, how it works, why it’s important.

When I speak in front of people or on the radio, I sweat.

(I sweat in places you don’t want to know about.)

But I love speaking to a crowd and I’m pretty good at it.

Mike is a great speaker because he’s passionate and engaging. But he doesn’t love speaking to a crowd. He can’t stand it if he trips over a word or says the wrong thing. Something we all do.

(My in-laws once confused “biopsy” with “autopsy” … that’s not a mistake you want to make.)

Mike could retreat from public speaking and hide his words away so that he’d never make any mistakes. It would be so easy. No embarrassing moments. No hearing yourself and wanting to cringe. But what a waste that would be.

Instead, this guy who doesn’t love public speaking hosted a live radio show for a decade.

He teaches classes to rooms full of people.

And every quarter he gets up on stage, microphone in hand, and speaks to a packed house about ImpactClub.

He’s still hard on himself if he fumbles a word, but he keeps doing it anyway. Because getting visibility for three local charities (and a huge donation to the one that wins the evening) is more important than whether or not all the words come out as he’d intended.

(Incidentally, the interview we did went great.)

It’s not easy to put yourself out there, especially if it’s not something you naturally love to do. But sometimes you have to do it anyway.

Great ideas only matter if you’re brave enough to put them into action.

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Talent Craves Dedication

Talent Craves Dedication

​In the last days of my father’s life, I was tasked with writing a few words to be read by my sister at his funeral. This meant sitting down in front of my computer and staring at a blank screen for a few hours. Because what is there to say, so much and not enough, all at once.

My father was best known as the New York Times bestselling author of dozens of books, translated into dozens of languages. Some of his work made it to the screen, like Not Without My Daughter, Midnight Express, and Freefall. He was nominated for a Pulitzer Prize.

Anyone at his funeral would know this about him. And I was sure that others would mention these accomplishments, because they certainly merit it.

I wanted to focus on what came before all of that.

I stepped away from the blank screen that faced me and walked by the spines of hardbacks with the name William Hoffer on them. Instead of looking for inspiration in the work he was best known for, I went to the downstairs closet.

I retrieved an old cardboard box that my sister sent me two decades prior. It contains faded newspapers and magazine clippings, a vast body of work of which any writer could be rightfully proud.

Articles for Popular Mechanics and Ladies Home Journal and everything in between. Stories on crime and tech and economics and science. He researched and wrote about New Age religions. There’s even a piece from the 1970s on the wage gap (yes, still timely).

This box of old articles means a lot. It’s a demonstration of that fact that yes, my father was a gifted writer, but he was also extremely dedicated. He worked hard and over a long period of time.

Like any worthwhile endeavor, writing requires practice and dedication. There are no overnight successes. You don’t sign up for your first marathon and expect to win, or decide to take up French and think you’ll be fluent tomorrow.

Of course, I wrote about other things as well, but this is one lesson from him that I prize – the importance of dedication and determination. When I see the “successes” of others, I remind myself of this: while an accomplishment might appear straightforward or the result of luck, I might not be seeing the extent of the work that came before.

I think having a gift or talent is a wonderful thing, but it will never be fully developed unless you’re willing to pair it with dedication and determination.

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Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

Life is Not a Seasonal Sport

Life is Not a Seasonal Sport

I played almost every sport I could in my youth. Growing up on an Island in Alaska, if you played sports, that meant you would either take a multi-day ferry ride or an airplane when it came time to play another team. Playing sports was our primary way off the island.

My challenge was that I was always far from the best player on the team. But I did everything I could to make it on the traveling team. That meant showing up with my best effort all the time.

It bothered me that I wasn’t as good as my friends, so I aimed to make up my lack of talent with hustle.

But with each passing grade level, it becomes harder and harder to make a sports team. Eventually, coaches are forced to cut players, and if you want the starting varsity spot, you have to prove you are the best player available to take that spot.

My motto in sports was, “You can’t outwork me.”

With wind sprint drills, the faster runners would beat me easily, but the longer the coach pushed us, I eventually would lead in sprints because I maintained my speed while they slowed down.

I would add extra workouts in before school, I’d spend more time in the gym hitting the weights, anything to help get an extra edge.

Even with all that effort, I was still far from the best player, but throughout my time playing sports, I knew my coaches always appreciated having me on the team because I set a great example for the other players.

At the end of the season, I wouldn’t be the one recognized for having the best stats, or the most wins, but I was regularly honored with some sort of “Coach Appreciation Award” for my efforts.

At the time, I didn’t think much of these. Another coach’s award? Great. It felt like a consolation prize. I would have much preferred to have the first place trophies.

But now I understand. And I’m grateful. The coaches knew that effort matters, and the fact that they made a special point to recognize and honor me for my efforts humbles me to think about now.

You get to choose the effort you put out every day.

When Oakland Raiders head coach Jon Gruden tutored young quarterbacks, his parting advice was: “Go lead the league in effort. That’s the one thing that requires no talent at all. It’s simply a decision you make.”

“In life, effort matters more than talent, because effort breeds talent.”

In school sports we can get cut, or even if we make the team we eventually run out of time when the season ends.

But with life skills like education, fitness, speaking, parenting, relationships, business, and storytelling, we have an endless arena in which to improve.

And if we commit, if we show up with our best effort every day, our talent improves in 1% increments.

1% improvements can feel like you are not moving forward. Which leads to frustration and often kills effort.

“Life is not a seasonal sport. There is no offseason. You must play the long game.”

We have plenty of time to win the coach’s award in effort and allow the 1% improvements to compound. But don’t take “plenty of time” for granted either. As Gary Vaynerchuck says, be urgent in the micro, and patient in the macro.

Sustained effort is the hardest life-sport there is. But it can yield the biggest wins.

You just have to “go lead the league in effort.”

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

Join Our Next Monthly CHALLENGE

Every month Amanda and Mike pick a month-long challenge that pushes us out of our comfort zone so we can grow, learn, and become better versions of ourselves.  Sometimes we design our own unique challenge and other times we join pre-established challenges. Email us to find out about our next upcoming challenge. Us@BusinessofUs.com

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

Driven To Be Something More

Driven To Be Something More

My friend Ryan Fletcher recently wrote something that spoke to me (I’ve paired this down from the original).

At first, I hated the pressure and burden of feeling called to become something great. It’s a torture chamber. You know your potential. Yet, you have no idea how to get there. This leads to despair and misery, and always feeling like you’re letting yourself down. 

It’s not always fun to be the 5% that feels called to become great. But if I accept it, I will build a life of vast meaning. Quitting isn’t an option. I am a slave to my purpose. My job to achieve that purpose is mission-critical. If I quit, my Lesser Self wins. And millions of the brightest lights may never get lit.”

Many of us are driven. But few are driven to be great. 

I don’t know why I feel driven to be great. But I do. 

It drives me to wake up early to stare at a blank page, and then write letters like this one.

I could be doing a million other things that could result in making more money today, but here I am reading, writing, and trying to learn ways to improve myself and help others do the same.

Sometimes I think, “Why Me?” 

Why can’t I just be satisfied with sleeping in today? 

Ryan described it well when he said, it’s a torture chamber when you know your potential but have no idea how to get there and feeling like you’re letting yourself down.

Sleeping-in feels like I’m letting myself down, it feels like torture. 

In contrast, writing letters like this gives me a warm feeling inside like I’m on the right path. 

I’m not a religious person, yet I know my moral compass always points north. 

I’m not a spiritual person, but I do feel like I’m being guided.

I don’t know why I’m driven the way I am. But it’s there, speaking to me every day. 

It’s clear to me that finding a way to answer that nagging inner drive is how we find our true potential. It’s also clear to me that this isn’t a temporary mission, but rather a lifelong mission that takes daily endurance. 

I don’t know why I’m driven the way I am, but I know I’m not the only one.

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#TheSweetLife

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

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Getting Started

What is that thing you’ve been putting off waiting for better timing? Are you thinking that you will get started when you have more time?

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Inspiring Characters

We all have the ability to inspire others. It’s a superpower we all possess if we choose to use it.

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Work/Life Integration

Work/Life Balance is something we tried and often failed at because we are both so driven and hardworking that as a married couple with kids, it can easily turn into a fight for time.

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Get Busy Living or Get Busy Dying

Last night, we watched Shawshank Redemption. And boy did that movie deliver. I think the ending is one of the best in movie history

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Dominos Falling

Despite all our concerns about the future, it was a good day for my family. We laughed, we bonded, and we ate 3 meals together.

Medals are nice but never forgo authenticity

Medals are nice but never forgo authenticity

Medals are nice. So shiny. Making the bestseller lists feels great. Suddenly your words have a legitimacy that wasn’t there before. Feels. So. Good. And yes, absolutely cause for celebration.

But the idea that these things lead you to a point of having “made it” or that happiness will follow as a result? False.

PERSPECTIVE SKEWED: When I began “writing,” I daydreamed about the awards and accolades. I THOUGHT a lot about writing, I talked about writing, I spent a small fortune on books ABOUT writing. It was a solid decade in the wanna-be stage while waiting tables and cleaning other people’s houses. I was trapped in the idea of “someday.”

GETTING MY MIND RIGHT: When I TRULY began writing, I put the daydreaming aside and instead focused on the page in front of me – getting the words down on paper. My priority became telling my story and connecting with the reader. Hyper focus on THAT is what eventually led to the awards and accolades.

And again, don’t get me wrong, they feel great.

But they can never be the focus. The goal must always be: connect with the reader.

Because the writing that truly connects with the reader will lead to the awards and accolades, which are the byproducts of a well-told story.

When the awards and accolades are the goal from the start, the writing loses its authenticity. We can’t afford to forgo authenticity, because when it comes to our readers, their bullshit meters are extremely sensitive.

If you ask someone to name a famous writer, there’s a good chance they might come up with Hemingway. Awards and accolades? Check. Success? Check. I know so many writers who are envious of Hemingway. After all, he won both a Pulitzer and a Nobel. Could it get any better? Apparently it could, because less than a decade after those wins, he killed himself. Is that how we want to measure success? Is that what happiness looks like?

Achieving a level of “success” in one area of life is great, but it won’t account for deficiencies in the others. Your business might be “killing it,” but what does that matter if poor health is literally killing you? You could be the most eloquent of wordsmiths, but that will do little to bring you happiness if your personal relationships are in shambles.

As Mike and I work through this journey we’re on, of challenge and introspection and daily improvement, we take time to celebrate the wins. We also remind ourselves that we can’t lose clarity on what really matters. Because, yes, medals are so pretty and shiny. But connecting with another human in a meaningful way is a far greater reward.

Join The Community!

Join our Facebook GroupJoin the quest for “The Sweet Life.”  Request access to our Facebook Group.  Let’s learn from each other!  GO HERE

Free Audio Book Download

Full Unabridged Audio Book “Vagabonding With Kids” by AK Turner!  GO HERE

Take The SWEET LIFE Assessment

See how you score? Identify your strengths. Discover areas in your life you want to improve. GO HERE.

Giving Back

Amanda and Mike launched an Impact Club in their hometown of Boise, Idaho in 2017, and have had a blast gathering like-minded individuals, families, and organizations to make significant impact in our community, raising over $200,000 locally and over $1.5 million nationally.  

About Us

Our Story | Mike and Amanda TurnerWe are Mike and Amanda Turner, founders of “The Business of Us.” We are fierce advocates of helping entrepreneurial couples and families improve their lives, livelihoods, and legacies… READ MORE

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